To self conceited Millennials, "It's not all about yourself"!

Fairly recently, I developed a very strong awareness on crucial steps which are needed to navigate life. It's not all about you, is an educational blog posts targeting young millennial's and people today who are obsessed with themselves.

Many young people today, have very high standards for themselves and set out goals to achieve in order become better and improve themselves. I am pretty sure every single person reading this has experienced a slightly inflated sense of self, even without noticing. So, I am pretty sure we are all self conceited brats. I mean not to tell you this in a harsh way, but in hopes to benefit you and help you achieve the most out of your life. We are becoming a self conceited generation, because there seems to be a new agenda, that is heavily focused on loving yourself, being your best self, and striving to achieve your goals. Although this may seem like a very healthy and admirable lifestyle, it is also a very dangerous and selfish mindset.

When I mention the word self, I mean you, I, yourself, as in 1 singular person. And that's where the issue starts, this focus on "I". When we start to solely focus on ourselves, we begin to stop thinking about our surroundings and start to miss out on what is happening with others around us. Think of it this way, when you throw a bowling ball, you are only looking at your own lane and you are paying no attention to the other surrounding lanes . In this example, think of your bowling lane as yourself, and others around you as the surrounding lanes. By others I mean anyone who is not yourself, so this can be your mother, dad or a even a stranger. The reason why I want to touch on this, is because this new agenda of loving yourself and focusing on yourself that has been developed by this new era has killed the importance of being there for others. Let me make myself clear I don't mean living for others like being their slaves and letting them disrespect or trying to meet other peoples need at the cost of yourself. No, what I mean is that, there are other people around you for a reason, and that is to support you and in turn for you to offer you assistance to them . In simpler terms the second greatest commandment being treat your neighbour how you would like to be treated.

I also want to make it clear in this blog, that I am not telling you to not love yourself, as that is important too. But your main focus should be on loving yourself, so that you are able to help others. For example, exercising and staying fit shouldn't be for getting abs and looking cute on an Instagram photo, but to stay strong and to live for as long as possible in order to service others. Because seriously how much value does a couple of Instagram likes has, compared to the support that you offer others. I mean support can be from anything to helping your sister with her homework or asking how your friend is feeling. Once we all start to focus on caring for other people and not just ourselves we will start to realise that the world can become a better place.

So, I want you to think about a time where you have helped somebody else today or you can start to think about how you can help someone else now. I promise you there is so much power in helping others and not expecting something back in return. For example, when we help others our brain releases oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine, which are all feel good hormones. Everyone single one of us all has something special inside of us that can be used to help others. Also, you learn so much about yourself when you focus on loving and supporting other people.

So, I think the reason why this concept has alarmed my brain is because I feel like we are living in a generation where people are starting to become obsessed with themselves. I believe this is mainly due to the rise of social media and the representation of many young and successful millennial's. There is this sudden rush to compete with others and to become the best or try to get the most followers or the most successful business. It's just so much focus on self, there is no focus on how to support and lift others up that are generally struggling around us.

While we are selfishly focused on ourselves for a long period of time we forget about our responsibility to love thy neighbour. Yes and I mean that we all have a responsibility to help other people as we were not born into this world by ourselves. If we do not change we are pushing towards a generation where everyone is only looking out for themselves and no one is looking out for others. We should not be an every man for himself generation and there is no need for a fight to be the best.

Introverted Ghost signing out: God bless you all. xxx